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Party Gatecrashers – Siblings

15th 07 2017. Posted in Parties by elliekelly

 

Being a parent is bloody hard work, I did know this before I became one but now I reallllly know it. So I am very mindful not to judge parents or any parenting. But, this I just can’t get my head around.

I’m going to try not to have to big a rant.

Siblings attending parties has been a ‘thing’ as long as I have been doing kids parties (and that’s a long time) but in recent months I have seen some parents really take the party ring biscuit.

I’m not saying every parent who takes their children along to a party of their siblings should be put in the same box (and of course I’m not talking about babies here). I have seen on quite a few occasions siblings sitting to the side of the room with toys or game of their own and even with a packed lunch. This of course tends to be the older children who can understand why they cannot join in with the fun. If there was no option but for them to come along and parents have planned on how to manage the party then high five to them, I’m sure they would rather not be in that situation in the first place.

As an entertainer, It can be very hard to tell who is a sibling and who is a child that is a bit shy and doesn’t want to join in.  When I go around the room at the start of the party with the bubbles encouraging the watchers to get popping it amazes me when parents don’t let me know they are not a guest. I am literally not being paid to worry about your child at this party.

A few weeks ago I arrived early for a party to dress the party table, put up decorations and I also provided the party bags. I went around the room encouraging all the children to join in which they did. Half way into the first section of the party during the Superman Dance I thought there is no way this is 20 children. I did a count as they were having a boogie and we had 24.

I had only set the table for 20 children and provided 20 party bags as this was the guest list provided and of course the number the parents expected. We had to rush to get an extra table and chairs out which of course didn’t look as nice as the table laid with colour matching clothes, plates, runner and sprinkles. And it was stress that was not needed.

WHY would any parent think that that is ok. To bring siblings along to the party and let them join in with all the entertainment and sit at the party food table. I find it totally baffling.

And when it comes to party bags that’s even more stressful. You either order or provide more than needed just in case or know you might have to deal with a mini meltdown when some siblings don’t get one. Again, some parents deal with this very well and tell their children in advance they won’t be getting one and explain why but honestly this does not happen as much as it should (which is all the time!)

I have about 100 other sibling related stories from the years but as I said I am trying not to rant. So my sibling party rules are below.

 

  1. Do not bring siblings to a party
  2. If you must (you can’t get child care, someone else to take them ect) then check with the birthday child’s parents first, there could be reason why they might need to say no.
  3. Take their own party food (unless the birthday parents have said they are welcome to eat)
  4. Take toys and games to keep them entertained
  5. Explain to them where they are going and why they can’t join in (unless you have been told they can)
  6. Explain to them why they won’t be getting a party bag and maybe even make your own one up for them to take with you.
  7. If there is an entertainer make it clear to them they are not a party guest – I will always make a balloon model for siblings but then at least I know not to spend any time trying to get them to join in.

 

The thing is I’m sure the people reading this are not the ones who do it anyway. Sigh

 

 

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Bocketts Farm – family day out

14th 07 2017. Posted in Family & Life by elliekelly

 

As well as Neive’s party we did want to have a quite family day with her to celebrate, at the last minute we decided on Bocketts Farm in Leatherhead. We thought something with close up animal opportunities would be better than the Zoo at her age and none of us were quite up for the long drive to the aquarium in Brighton, after the busy party day, we wanted simple fun.

I have known about Bocketts Farm though work for ages and was looking forward to having an explore. It was a big hit with the birthday girl. We went on a Wednesday so it was pretty quiet, bar a few school trips that were easy to avoid and Neive got up close with lots of very loud sheep and lambs, goats, cows, horses, bunnies and pigs.

 

Bocketts Farm - Neive

She was really interested in all the animals (most she had never seen before) but at one point a sheep dog ran past,  she is a big dog fan and if she could talk I’m sure that’s all she would be going on about, which is typical with kids isn’t it. The box the present came it scenario.

Ok look at the face of the baby Alpaca below!!!!

Bocketts Farm - Neive

Neive is pretty much up for walking whenever she can now (not in the direction you need to go of course). Bocketts has a trail around the fields to see the animals, a big barn with a selection of animals inside which is ideal if the weather isn’t great, smaller animals like bunnies inside with petting time slots, stables with horses and donkeys, a soft play area, a cafe and restaurant and tractor ride.

Bocketts Farm - Neive

The only thing we did not do was the tractor ride as the time slots didn’t work out for us. But we did just make it in time for Neive to pet the very fluffy bunny and some guinea pig. Granted I was more exctied about this than her.

Bocketts Farm - Neive

I am making a list of all the things I want to do this summer (don’t the summers just wiz by and you never do the things you wanted to!) and popping back for a second visit towards the end will be on it.

 

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Eric Carle 1st Birthday

10th 07 2017. Posted in Buttons Parties, Family & Life by elliekelly

  That was the fastest year EVER!   I know it’s a cliché and everyone tells you how quickly they grow up but I really couldn’t comprehend just how fast time was going to go, or how fast Neive was going to grow up. She is walking around and it seems so normal that it’s […]

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Baby sensory play with ice

19th 06 2017. Posted in Baby Play by elliekelly

  This is the perfect baby sensory play on days as hot as these! It’s sooo hot!! I do love the sun and the heat but i would rather be on holiday when it’s this hot, by a pool with a cold drink. Running around after a baby and hosting kid’s parties in 30+ heat […]

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Baby play with balloons

19th 06 2017. Posted in Baby Play by elliekelly

  So simple and yet so much fun. With a garage full of balloon and helium Neive has been playing with a balloon for some time. When she was around 54 and a half months old I would tie a loop in the end of the string and put it around her foot. She loved […]

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BFG Dream Jar

13th 06 2017. Posted in Parties by elliekelly

  We made 185 dream jars at the Fleet Food Festival at the end of May. They were such a hit we ran out before the end of the day! So many people around the festival who has seen the kids with them came to ask how they were created, so i thought I would […]

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How to make Pass the Parcel

12th 06 2017. Posted in Parties by elliekelly

  When i started in children’s parties over 10 years ago I think it would be fair to say I was not a fan of pass the parcel. So I changed the way we played it to ensure the we didnt have any tears and now  I love watching children play this game. This is […]

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Baby box sensory play

6th 06 2017. Posted in Baby Play by elliekelly

  The classic baby in a box game. I must say Neive wasn’t as keen to go inside the box as i thought she would be. We haven’t done lots of play with tunnels yet though so i think she was a bit unsure. I cut some holes in the top of the box and […]

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Surprise box sensory play

6th 06 2017. Posted in Baby Play by elliekelly

  I have been filling up a show box with random things from around the house for Neive for a few months now and today i remembered to get some photos of her exploring them. I had a few bits from the kitchen, tube of smarties as she loves a shake and grabbed things out of […]

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Baby play with tissue paper

30th 05 2017. Posted in Baby Play by elliekelly

  This play idea I got after Neive pulled all the tissues out of the tissue box. How do babies know the things that make the most mess are the most fun! I took the now empty tissue box and re filled it with bits of tissue paper. It was so easily i just ripped bits […]

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Ellie KellyHello & welcome to my blog

I'm Ellie a lover of celebrations, bunting, balloons and bubbles. This is my party and lifestyle blog. I'm married to Mr Kelly, we have a 4 year old Border Terrier, Milo and a baby on the way. Put on your party hat, grab a bit of cake and take a look around.

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